Lizzie has always said that she never had as much fun dating as she did with Jon!
We got engaged in Coniston in August 2019. I (Lizzie) was having a bit of a rough time with anxiety and had some time off work, I hadn’t got out the house much and Jon suggested we go up to the Lakes for a walk one day. We arranged it for the following weekend and the whole way up we where getting stuck in traffic, I kept spotting places and saying ‘Why don’t we just go here rather than sitting in all this traffic’, including Blackpool, the whole time wondering why Jon was so strict it had to be a walk around The Lakes.
We finally got to Coniston, parked up and went for a good walk round the lake and through farm fields, we sat by the water for ages, until I was hungry and suggested a pub dinner, as soon as I stood up, Jon got on one knee and asked me to marry him. He said he wanted me to know at my lowest point at a time I was struggling, he was there and was always going to be. It was perfect.
My parents had just left to go on holiday but I couldn’t wait till they were home to tell them and face-timed them straight away, little did I know my Mum had actually been ring shopping with Jon a few months before.
We chose the venue about a year before our wedding, after searching for ‘barn’ or ‘rustic’ venues, we didn’t fall in love with anything. I widened the search and told Jon about a venue in Clitheroe, his first response was it was too far (we live in St Helens) but after I explained it was a brewery he was immediately sold and we booked to have a look around.
We brought my parents and all 4 of us as soon as we walked into the hall, knew it was exactly what we were looking for. We wanted a relaxed space where everyone could see each other, mix with each other and have a good party.
That’s exactly what it felt like on the day too. Everyone who came said it was a wedding like no other and everything about it was ‘Us’.
We didn’t necessarily have a theme, but our colours were rust and neutrals.
My Dad’s (Lizzie’s) music, a song called ‘Love Came To Me’ which his friend wrote. The music is just an acoustic guitar with no words. My dad played guitar my whole life but never played in front of my family, the first time I heard him play was at my Grandad’s funeral in 2020, and I was adamant that the next time it had to be for a happy occasion. Then the Christmas after he gave me a CD with recordings of a few songs that his friend wrote and we fell In love with this one song and kept it a secret right up to the last moment that we would have this.
We had this written on our order of service, which my Dad actually saw before we walked down the aisle when he went to get a sneak peek of the room, and panicked that I was expecting him to get his guitar out and play but didn’t say anything. Then as we were stood at the doors and the music started to play, I’ve never heard anyone sigh a bigger relief but also feel so happy.
We chose the buffet option as we wanted everyone to be able to eat something that they actually wanted. We’ve both been to weddings were it was a set choice or we didn’t even know what we were having when it was put down in front of us.
We kept saying as much as the day is about us, it was about having everyone we loved there, happy and well fed and watered! The buffet option gave us this ability to let our guests pick and choose from the options.
We only picked a DJ for our entertainment, we wanted to keep it simple and it not feel too ‘over the top’ and we knew after COVID that everyone was just ready for a party so we didn’t need much fuss. We chose the DJ from DFC recommended by Holmes Mill as we trusted their opinion and when we spoke to them, they got exactly what we wanted.
Paul and Nanda, we chose them because their style is candid and natural which a lot of photographers do but they just have such beautiful photos, and when we spoke to them, they are so kind, and relaxed we knew we would feel at ease with them.
Prior to the wedding we did find it a little hard that when we emailed we would have a different member of staff email back, we did feel it would maybe be better to always deal with the same person just so we knew everything was looked after. Towards the end of planning however, the lovely Emily did do this for us which made all the last minute bits feel so much smoother.
We also want to say a big thank you to all the staff on the day, a really love guy who was there on the day to organise us and also announce when different things were happening made such a big impression on us and all of our guests, he was so lovely, joked with us and made us feel so relaxed. I (Lizzie) had a panic attack in the morning, as I struggle with anxiety and hate focus being on me (which is great for a bride) and he kept checking in to let me know how long we had till we needed to be ready, and also just chatted with us which just helped me so much.
All the bar staff were amazing too, we didn’t notice but apparently there was only 1 bar girl on the day but everyone said how lovely she was and how she joined in with conversations, laughed and joked and made everyone feel so welcome. I’ve heard this from a colleague who also went to a wedding at Holmes Mill, that your bar and waiting on staff are the best.
A lot of the wedding planning we did do just us 2 as it was mostly planned through lockdown’s in the pandemic, but when we needed them my Mum (Lizzie’s Mum) was a massive help, as where my bridesmaids, Lou and Heather. On the day I couldn’t ask for a better girls to have with me, helping my anxiety and just talking me through each step until I walked down the aisle and all my nerves were gone.
Another massive help was our Groomsmen (Matt) who thought about everything, even down to ordering a 50 colour sewing kit for all emergencies (even if it wasn’t used).
A lot of the little details of the wedding were done by us, I am a graphic designer so created all our stationary so they had that personal touch. Jon, bless him, was the manual labourer of cutting and sticking.
The day felt so personal, even down to the food options, the drinks choices, all of our friends and family said how the day was our day and everything we did was us, down to getting vows wrong and laughing through the ceremony.
The Holmes Mill staff helped so much with this, letting us decide what we were happy with doing and not being strict on times and how things should look for a ‘typical’ wedding as this isn’t what we wanted.
- The Couple: Lizzie and Jon
- Wedding Date: 18th September 2021
- Venue: Holmes Mill
- Photographer: Paul and Nanda
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